Tyger is already moaning at me for not paying attention to him so we’ll see how far through this I actually get before giving up and posting it unfinished (I know there’s a ‘save’ button but if I kept working on posts until I liked them, I’d never post anything anywhere right now).
So, for one thing, the Gro Clock is still working really well. For a child we very much suspect has Asperger’s, it is the perfect visual prompt for bedtime and getting up time. I’d highly recommend it.
And…I have an upset Tiny Tyger on my lap (I had the audacity to tell him off for spitting his milk out) asking for ‘Piggle Piggle’ and ‘Uh Dezzy’ (Iggle Piggle and Upsy Daisy are two characters from the TV show In the Night Garden, which is like The Magic Roundabout of today. It’s like crack for kids and annoys the hell out of me because of it’s weird problems with perspective and…anyway…).
And so the post has been derailed. I was going to write about vegetarianism and the ethics of bringing up Tyger and Baby Bear as vegetarians (and whether, as parents, the Wolf and I are imposing our lifestyle on them etc.) but my focus on that has been somewhat shifted and I imagine Baby Bear will be awake soon so…
One of my sisters was recently diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome (AS). This is a label no longer used in the US but is often still used here in the UK. Some people might know it as ‘High Functioning Autism’, or simply Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) but it probably doesn’t matter too much since it is all part of a spectrum, anyway, and one of those labels really tells you what – specifically – my sister has problems with. A very, very brief overview would be to say she has problems with change or transitions, she has high levels of anxiety – especially about social interactions, she has ‘meltdowns’ (which mean as a 15 year old she will still occasionally get to the point where she rolls around on the ground or bangs her head off things or can’t stop wailing or some combination) when she is overwhelmed, she needs a predictable routine in place and all sorts of other things. Of course, that doesn’t tell you much and there’s so much more to it but…Baby Bear awake soon etc. (also, I have to put a chicken in a Fire Engine).
What I was getting at is it runs in our family (my dad also has AS but has never been formally diagnosed and there are diagnoses of Autism on both my mum and dad’s sides of the family) and I have a reasonablish knowledge of AS.
So, we’re pretty sure Tyger is an Aspie. Maybe next time or the time after (if I actually write that veggie one next time) I’ll actually run through some of the reasons for this. The health visitors who did his two year check said it was too early to tell (and, hey, he makes eye contact and has a good grasp of language so that’s a good sign, right? – nevermind that these are irrelevant when it comes to AS) and will get in touch again in four to six months to reassess and possibly refer him. And that’s fine because you might only get one shot at a diagnosis and right now a lot of his possible ‘traits’ might just be normal for his age so waiting until he’s older and should have outgrown these things really does make sense.
But it feels dishonest to say he has Asperger’s when he doesn’t have a diagnosis yet and might not for years. Yet it feels just as dishonest to say he doesn’t.
I don’t know. Best wishes.